Something happened to me when I turned 40. I have talked to other women my age, and they have also had this experience. When I turned 40 I suddenly had this deeper sense of who I was.....more of a certainty about who I was. I felt more free to speak my mind, to say what I think, to offer opinions. I cared less about what others thought about me. It is an overall total sense of well-being.
I sometimes wonder if it is a sort of developmental milestone. When my children were babies I used to read, "What to expect the first year" to see what developments to expect from them each month. My daughter was a textbook baby. If the book said, "This month your baby will roll over.", my daughter would roll over for the first time on almost exactly the day she turned that month older.
What if there were a book written about what to expect about developments in grown women. I think the chapter on age 40 would say: "This year you will find yourself and have a greater sense of who you are. You will feel more comfortable about yourself. You will care less about how you look. You will care less about what others think about you. You will feel more free to speak your mind."
I would be interested to hear comments from other women who are 40 and older. I think they will agree, forty is fabulous!