Today a single friend was at my house and mentioned that she would really like to find a husband. I suggested that perhaps she should go online to meet someone. She said, "Would you do that?" I told her that yes, if I were in her position, I would. I have many online friends that are great people, so perhaps that has desensitized me to the idea of ending up dating someone you met online. Quite honestly, if my husband were to die first, I would probably stay single though. I mean, once you have owned a Mercedes, why would you want to exchange it for a Volvo? :) Anyway, my friend was nervous at the thought, so I walked over to the computer and did a search for an online dating site that caters to LDS people. But when we got there, we found that you really can't see what it is like unless you make a profile. So she agreed to make a profile right then. But as she was filling out the information, she hit some wrong button and lost all the information she had already written. She said she will do it again at home.
I don't know, I just think this might work for her. I think the most important thing about meeting the right person is being in the right place. How are you going to meet a person unless you have a way to come in contact with them? So living here in China may not be the best opportunity for her to meet someone, unless her goal is to marry a Chinese. But that's not her goal, so the next best thing, in my opinion, is to meet someone online.
Now, I know there are a lot of weird people out there. Trust me, I think I dated some of them. But just because you make an online profile, and just because you talk to someone online, doesn't mean that you have to marry them! Think of it as "making friends" online. A person would be crazy to hastily marry ANYONE that they didn't know very well. And even then, sometimes you don't really know the person until you live with them. So although online dating may seem foolish to some, I can show you people who knew someone longer in person, and still ended up finding out the person was bad.
So the key is to follow your gut feelings. Our brain sends up caution flags when something isn't right. We might ignore them because we want the dream romance. But if a person is totally honest with themselves, they will see the warning signs ahead of time.
So I may have created a monster here. I told her she couldn't blame me if she met some weirdo this way. But I actually think her prospects are better online than off. And who knows, maybe there is some guy out there who, just like her, just needs a chance to meet someone!