Thursday, April 12, 2012

The Worth of a Mother

How do you measure the value of a mother? Check out these quotes that are in the news right now:
Hillary Rodham Clinton: "I suppose I could have stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but I decided to do something with my life"

( baking cookies and having teas all I did with my life while I stayed home with my kids? HARDLY!)

Michelle Obama: "Speaking Friday at what the administration called “The White House Forum on Women and the Economy,” President Barack Obama said that after his two daughters were born, he and his wife—both Harvard Law School graduates—could not afford the “luxury” of having her stay home with the children.

In 2005, when Obama began serving in the U.S. Senate (and his daughters turned 4 and 7), he and his wife were earning a combined annual income of $479,062. Barack Obama was paid a salary of $162,100 by the U.S. taxpayers, and Michelle Obama was paid $316,962 to handle community affairs for the University of Chicago Medical Center." CSNS News

(We got by on far less than their $479,062! Why did she HAVE to work?)

Hilary Rosen speaking about Ann Romney: "she's no economic expert because she "hasn't worked a day in her life."

(What is your definition of work Ms. Rosen? I have probably worked harder than most women in the work force!)

Ann Romney's response to Hilary: "Raising the five Romney sons, she said, was such a full-time job that her husband, Republican presidential contender Mitt Romney, considered it more important than his work as the family breadwinner.
"He would say, 'My job is temporary...Your job is a forever job that's going to bring forever happiness," Ann Romney told Fox News"

(I TOTALLY agree with Mr. Romney! Mothering children is far more important than making money!)

And lastly, a word from a former president of our church, David O. McKay:
"No other success can compensate for failure in the home."

Never criticize a woman who has decided to stay home with her children instead of work. She is making a sacrifice, and her children will always thank her for it. This isn't to criticize those who do work, but never devalue the woman who stays home.


Grannymar said...

I was a stay at home Mum by choice. I never regretted it. Mind you I went without all the latest equipment and large screen TVs etc. To date I still have no dishwasher or tumble dryer. I don't miss what I never had. I cooked all meals from scratch and baked for home, a church and many charity events.

In my book being a parent is the most precious gift we can give and time lost outside the home can never be recaptured.

Inklings said...

Well said to both of you. I agree.

Rummuser said...

I totally agree. Urmeela was a highly successful professional artist till well into her pregnancy. After Ranjan was born, she dabbled with her career on and off but decided finally to give up her career to run our home. None of the three of us ever regretted the decision and we had a very fulfilling home and family life till she died three years ago. Her contribution to the successes of her husband and son was a critical factor in our stability today.

Delirious said...

Shackman, I did think at first that Rosen must surely know what it takes to raise a child. But when I did a search on her to find the quote, I ran across a bio that says she is a lesbian. It's highly possible she hasn't had children. But even her comment wasn't as offensive to me as Hillary Clinton's!

blackwatertown said...

I doubt that Hillary Clinton and Michelle Obama are as ignorant of what being a mother is about as those quotes suggest. The daughters of both mothers seem to be turning out fine.
Some people do well mixing work at home and work outside the home - others concentrate on one or the other - both approaches can work well and give good example. It just depends on the person. Without knowing the details of their family lives it's hard to judge, but both the mothers you mention, while no doubt not perfect, apeear to have set good examples.
As for Hilary Rosen's comments - not so sure.

blackwatertown said...

And speaking of mothers - mine is ace.

SWUBIRD said...

I agree with you on so any levels. During our working lives my wife worked for a while, and then she stayed home with the kids. She loves kids and she wanted to be with them. She chose to be a mom, and she loved it more than anything else in this whole world. She did it well, and she was the hardest working person I ever knew. Now that we're older, she goes all out to do whatever she can for the grand children. And her love and hard work continues to touch their lives.
I don't have anything against those who want to spend their days working in their so-called called careers. That's their choice. But I do have a big problem with those who deride others for pursing their choices. Where on earth would we all be without mothers and fathers? The answer is surely too horrific to even contemplate.

It's just my two cents.

Happy trails.