The older I get, the more I say what I think. I do believe I have a certain amount of tact, but sometimes things just come out. I think I do this because it is easier just to get things out in the open than stew about them. Sometimes I'm not sure how to say it, so I hold it in instead. But eventually it starts to leak out. I have a friend who always says, "Assumptions are dangerous". I agree..that's why I think it is important sometimes to say what I'm thinking, to clarify whether or not it really is just an assumption.
I have to admit that when I am really upset about something, I hold it in for awhile. I guess I'm sort of like a teapot though. I hold it in, hold it in...stew about it, stew about it, until everything comes boiling to the top and I start spitting it out. Usually, once it all comes out, then it can be resolved. Occasionally, as with real teapots, I just end up making a big mess of things. I guess that's why I hold it in to begin with.
I guess the moral to this weird post is that I shouldn't hold it in. If I don't let it get to the boiling stage, maybe it wont' make such a big mess. Takes a lot less clean up, but takes a lot more courage.