Friday, February 01, 2013

Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium: Half Full Glass

I like that Padmini made the decision for us with this topic about whether the glass would be half empty or half full.  I like to try to have a half full glass all the time.  I like to think about what I can learn from any situation, rather than how it inconveniences me.  But I think the one aspect of my life where this is difficult to do is with regard to other people in my life.

Let me give you a list:

--My children, when they are giving me fits.

For the most part, my kids have been pretty easy.  But once in awhile they push the limits.  I remember hearing a teacher liken this to cows that will push on every part of a new fence to see if it will give.  Once they find that the fence is strong, they will stop pushing.  Sometimes, while my kids are pushing the limits, it sure is hard to remember the good things about them.  It's easier to look at the half empty glass.  But then I remember that they aren't out on the streets doing drugs and such, and I realize that they actually are pretty good kids.

--Acquaintances who have a trying personality.

I think I am, by nature, a not very social person.  I like time alone, and I don't feel the need to invite people to do things with me.  In fact, I would rather do things alone than have to deal with drama of other people.  I have an acquaintance who is very emotionally needy.  This person is also quite narcissistic.  They don't seem to think about the feelings or needs of others.  After I have spent time with this person, I feel emotionally drained.  It's really hard for me to focus on their positive traits.  The personality defects are so glaring, I have a hard time seeing the good points.  I just try to remind myself that they need love and friendship, and that if I am going to live my religion, I need to learn how to give those things.  And in order to do that, I have to find some good in them.

--Judgmental and Critical People

I have a really hard time liking people who criticize or judge me.  I seem to only be able to focus on the half empty glass, and I can't see how this person has any value for my life.  I guess I could be idealistic and say that they keep me humble.  But frankly, I'm not to that point yet.  For me it feels unjust.  They don't know my life, and they most often are making unfair judgments.  I usually try to just take the positive moments with them when I can get them, because it will probably be short lived.    I'm still working on looking at the glass half full in these relationships.

This might be a weird take on today's topic, but this was where my mind was going today.  If you are curious about how the other consortium members treated this topic, feel free to click the links below.
Check out what the other consortium members have been doing lately to improve themselves:   RummuserAnuAshkokGaelikkaGrannymarPadmumMagpie11, andAkanksha,Will KnotMaria the Silver FoxAnkiNema Noor Paul Plain Joe, and RohitBlack watertownThe Old Fossil, our newest member MAXI! and last, but not least SHACKMAN! :)


Rummuser said...

I can assure you from personal experience that everything will work out and you will be around for as long as you are needed.

Grannymar said...

Relax Girl! The whole point of the LBC is to see the many variations of the one topic. If we all took the same line then it would be boring. I bet if you wrote a piece on one topic every day for a week, sealing them away so as not to make changes or additions, they would be totally different angles when the envelopes are opened.

The Old Fossil said...

Shoot, are you sure your religion requires you to be positive in all the situations? Jesus didn't seem upset about rebuking someone or turning his back when called for. Me, I'm a fan of honest emotions and try to learn from those that surface. I very seldom find it necessary to smite someone, LOL!

Maxi said...

You did a great job with this topic, D. You showed the glass half full and half empty. Kinda how we humans are.
Blessings ~ Maxi

Delirious said...

Fossie, I was thinking of "charity" which is listed as the greatest of all gifts. It's the greatest because it's the hardest to develop. True charity is the pure love of Christ. I'm trying to learn that for the people who are hard to love. :)

Rummuser said...

A great approach to the topic Delirious. It is always so that instead of either or we have to have and!

Maria said...

I also enjoy doing things on my own and don't feel the need to ask someone to go with me. If I wanted to see a movie years ago when I was single, I just went by myself, didn't feel the need to ask someone to come along. Of course, I don't get time for that now being a busy housewife, as you can understand.