Recently we have had a big hullaballoo caused by a group of LDS women who are seeking ordination in our church. From my perspective, they have been given the answer, so I'm not sure why they think they haven't. The leader of the group was recently excommunicated. But the group continues to try to recruit from within the membership of the church. They have developed 6 "discussions" or lessons, patterned after the way missionaries in our church teach. They have also encouraged feminist LDS women who support them to create online profiles that speak about their desire to be ordained to the Priesthood. I am troubled by this group because of their methods, and because they are causing divisiveness within the church. But lately I'm equally troubled by those who try to make those of us who disagree and are vocal, feel guilty.
I have one particular Facebook friend who, in almost every single post she shares, says over and over in a hundred different ways that we should love each other and celebrate our differences. We should be kind and tolerant. We should try to understand each other. Sounds good, doesn't it? But the unspoken message is what bothers me. The unspoken message is, "Don't say anything against what people do. If you do, you are being unkind." Her unspoken message hints that if you disagree with someone, you aren't being loving, or Christlike, or tolerant. Perhaps she would like it if no one ever spoke up about any issue. I mean, heaven forbid we should make someone feel bad!
What bothers me the most is that this kind of thinking hints that the people fighting for ordination in our church can be just as bold and outspoken as they want, that their voice is more important than mine. They insinuate that if I disagree with them, I am being mean. But I believe you can disagree and still love a person. I was thinking today that even parents, who love their children more than anyone on the planet, would not be good parents if they didn't speak up when their children do something that they think is wrong.
Another thing that bothers me is that by telling me that I shouldn't judge others because it isn't loving, they are in effect making a judgment of me! How do they know how much I love the other person? Just because I disagree, and try to speak out in defense of my church doesn't mean I don't love the person. I try not to use hateful words, I try to speak honestly. In reality, part of me does this out of love for the women who could easily be deceived by them! I want to try to warn others to not buy in to their acts of apostasy!
So let me just say that I will not be shutting my mouth any time soon. I believe in speaking up for what I believe to be right. You are allowed to disagree. It would be vain of me to think that everyone will believe the way I do. But I cannot stand by and not speak up for what I see is truth. Sorry to those who might think this is an unloving act, but I won't be shutting my mouth any time soon.