I will probably get some hateful comments in response to this post. See, that's how it works. I'm not allowed to have an opinion, but they are. Anyway, I found this on the facebook wall of a friend of mine who says he is gay. Now, some might argue that being gay is not a choice, that you are born that way. I don't know about that, but I do know that we are born either one gender or the other. There are rare cases of people who have difficulty knowing which gender they are because they were born with both male and female parts. I actually have a close acquaintance who was born this way, but ultimately gave birth to a child, so I thnk science would agree she is female.
Some people feel that they are one gender trapped in the body of another gender. I don't know about that either, but I think if you have a male body, then you should refer to yourself as a male, and if you have a female body, you should refer to yourself as a female. That is, by definition, your gender. And even if you feel more feminine or masculine than typically associated with your gender, that has no bearing on ultimately what gender you are. I kind of think of it like race. Either you are Chinese, or you aren't. Either you are Latino, or you aren't. You can't be black and one day decide that deep down you are really native American Indian. Because physically, and biologically, you are black. If you choose to live as an Indian, and think of yourself as Indian, that is fine, but don't get upset when I call you black.
So this was the post that I found on Facebook:
"Found on tumblr
if i ever misgender you:
1 it is not on purpose i promise
2 im very sorry
3 tell me your correct pronouns and ill use them"
There was a number 4, but it was stupid, and had no relation to the rest of the items, so I deleted it.
I can't tell you how much this mentality bugs me. Mis-gender? There are some cases when a man or woman dresses so much like the other gender that you can't tell. I might call that person by the gender they resemble, not by the gender they were born. In that case, yes, please correct me. But if you have a female body, I think it's pretty irrational to be upset with me if I refer to you as female. And frankly, I'm not sorry. And I refuse to use a pronoun that doesn't correctly fit your anatomical makeup.
I heard that recently California passed a law that allows children who identify themselves as the opposite gender to use that gender's bathroom at school. I think this is appalling! Why even have separate bathrooms if you are going to allow one boy to use the girls' bathroom, or vice versa. And parent may have a son that wants to wear dresses to school, and that's okay with me. Just don't force my child to buy in to the dillusion that even though he is anatomically a boy, he must be called "she" and "her" because he chooses that. Sorry, but you don't choose gender. Some people may have sex-change operations, but that doesn't change their DNA.
I think that in many cases we not only have gender confusion, but we have moral confusion. The world today is trying to gray the lines between what is truth and what isn't. The world today doesn't want there to be any wrong or right, truth or error. The world today wants us to accept every lifestyle, and not make any moral judgments at all. Our world has truly lost it's moral compass.