My mother was not particularly demonstrative to us children. My father was demonstrative to me, and often hugged me, and as a little girl he rocked me in a rocking chair often, even when I was older. But despite not being demonstrative, my mom was a good mother. However, when I was older, perhaps about 20 years old, and still living at home, my mother decided to change. She had read an article that said that if you want your children to be okay emotionally, you should hug them every day. If you want them to do well, you should hug them twice. If you want them to excel, you should hug them more. My mother decided that we needed more hugging in our lives, so instituted a new rule that before we left the house, we had to give her a hug. It was a little awkward at first, but in the long run, it was a nice change.
When my own kids came along, I perhaps went over board on the hugging. They began to push me away. I still tried, but over the years, especially during their teenage years, it became more difficult to get them to let me hug them. I decided that any touch is better than none, so I would try to at least pat them on the back, or rest my hand on their back while I talked to them. I do think that touch is very important to children. I think sometimes an animal can fill that need for touching. Children will hug and kiss an animal, even when they won't allow their parents to do so. Whatever the source, touch is incredibly important in the lives of everyone, especially children.
The human touch is so important that doctors encourage parents to touch their babies that are in ICU. I heard one story of a baby that was a twin that wasn't doing well after birth. They put the other twin in with that child, and that baby began to thrive after being close to it's twin. The human touch can be healing. The goal for us all should be to make sure that our touch is always a healing touch. I think we should always reach out to others with our touch, even if it is just a shake of the hand.
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