While I do think of Ramana when I think of care giving, I also think of a woman I know. She has numerous health problems, and needs a care giver to come to her home several times a week. I think the State allows her 75 hours a month, but frankly she should probably be in a care center where she would receive 'round the clock' care. In fact, the doctors requested that she be put in a care center, but she refused. She insisted that she would be just fine at home. Sadly, she wasn't seeing reality.
When I first began visiting her, she had a care giver, but the care giver wasn't doing her job. She would drop by only briefly, and only if there was something my friend couldn't do for herself. I began to complain, and told my friend that this care giver was scamming the system. My friend was asking me, and members of our church, to do many of the things that the care giver should have been doing. I began to push back, and insist that she have the care giver do those things. Eventually, she fired the care giver, and hired a woman from church.
The interesting thing about this new situation is that my friend now realizes how much she was missing before! In fact, she is going to ask the state to re-evaluate her situation to see if she could be allowed more hours of care. I don't think she ever fully appreciated, until now, how much she really needs the help. Now she tells me that I was right in suggesting she fire the other care giver. Sadly, she gets angry when I tell her that I still think she should be living in a care center where she would get help 24/7.
My heart felt thanks go out to all care givers who not only put in the hours, but give of their heart to these helpless among us. In our religion we believe that service we give is godlike. "And behold, I tell you these things that ye may learn wisdom; that ye may learn that when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God." (Mosiah 2:17, The Book of Mormon) That is a sacred opportunity!
Conversely, I would give warning to those who have been given the responsibility to care for others, yet abuse or neglect them. I believe there is a God. And I believe that people who neglect the very weakest among us will be held accountable for their actions. You may give excuses, or think they are not deserving of your help. But watch out, for God may throw you a curve, and you may also find yourself in need of care. What kind of person would you want caring for you?
Now go see what the other consortium members have to say about care giving:
Rummuser, Anu, Ashkok, Gaelikka, Grannymar, , Padmum, Magpie11, andAkanksha,Will Knot, Maria the Silver Fox, Anki, Nema Noor Paul Plain Joe, and Rohit
and The Old Fossil, and our newest member MAXI!