I got a message from someone on facebook today that was a subtle criticism. This person was suggesting that I make a change in my life. The actual message wasn't critical in the way it was written, but the unspoken message behind it was. This message comes from someone who is probably the most idealistic, and also most judgemental person I know. In some ways her idealism is good because it pushes her to excel in life. But in other ways it isn't good because it causes her to be critical of others who don't measure up to her expectations.
At first I was a little upset by the message. It's so unfair for her to judge me, when she knows nothing about my life, or struggles or challenges in my life. She knows nothing about what I have to do on a daily basis, or the responsibilities I have. This is why being judgemental is so unfair. Like the old Indian saying goes, you can't judge a person until you have walked a mile in their mocassins. In my reply to her, I explained some of the health struggles I've had, as well as some of the current challenges I have, and explained that I won't be able to make the change that she suggested.
As I thought about this later, I almost laughed to myself. I found myself having an imaginary conversation with her. I found myself saying, "If you don't like this about me, I can give you plenty of other things about myself that you will like even less!" My husband even jokingly suggested that I reply with some comment of that sort. lol If this little thing bothers her so much, imagine how sleepless she would be if I could really give her some faults to mull over at night!
I don't know, in a weird sort of way, something about that thought brought me great comfort. lol