Thursday, October 13, 2011

Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium: Self-Obsession

Some of you may know that I have a hobby of doing handwriting analysis. I say hobby, because I've never had any professional training. But I have studied many books, and I really feel that I have learned a lot. It's not any kind of fortune telling. Handwriting analysis studies show that people with certain personality traits, have the same handwriting traits. Many companies in Europe use handwriting analysis when hiring employees. As I have looked at the handwriting of people I know, the traits they exhibit have been consistent with their personalities.

One trait in particular that I am thinking of today is the trait of someone who is inward looking. It isn't self-obsession in the selfish sense, but this kind of person is wholely focused on how things reflect on them. A person with this handwriting trait will want their children to succeed, but their underlying reason is so that they, themselves, look good. Conversly, they will feel their character has been maligned if their child does something dishonorable. This person is usually highly focused on appearances, and will do all in their power to appear well put together, even if their personal life is in shambles.

I actually have known several people with this handwriting trait. I often can predict who will have this trait. When I meet someone with this type of self-obsessed personality, I feel certain that the handwriting trait will also be present. I am rarely disappointed.

I'm a little hesitant to tell the handwriting trait to you. THere are many wonderful, kind, giving people, with this trait. But I don't want anyone to feel bad should they have this trait. But I suppose that most people know, deep down inside, if they are inward looking.

There is another handwriting theory that says that if you want to improve a certain personality trait, you should begin writing like the people who have that trait. I have a family member with the "inward looking" handwriting. I have often been tempted to encourage them to change their handwriting, to see if it would help them change their personality for the better. But maybe that's just too good to be true. Maybe personality changes are much harder to come by.

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Grannymar said...

*note to self: Do not handwrite any messages to Delirious!* LOL.

I must take more interest in handwriting, mind you these days everything seems to be typed. I also find that my hand looks very different when I use a ballpoint rather than a Roller-ball or fountain pen.

padmum said...

I find it difficult even to sign nowadays--thank God you can't see my scribble.

I used to know a lady--my husband's colleague's wife who was doing this professionally as you said.

PS: I never asked her to read my handwriting...maybe too much of an extrovert.

Can you really change your handwriting when you are older?

Delirious said...

Padmum, you handwriting changes throughout your life, as your personality changes. My handwriting as a teenager is much different from my handwriting as an adult. THe main problem with changing handwriting as an adult is that our personalities are already deeply formed. But the idea behind handwriting therapy is that if a person can change their handwriting, it will help them to change their personality. The key is to know HOW to change it so that you don't end up with a trait you don't want! :)

Delirious said...

The writing utensils we use do have an effect on how we write. EVen the paper we use can influence our writing. WHen I have people give me handwriting samples, I usually prefer for them to use a pen, and to write on unlined paper. I honestly think that most people have nothing to hide. IN fact, most of the time people read their handwriting analysis and learn many positive things about themselves!

Nene said...

I agree with Grannymar, and think I will even type the addresses on my envelopes from now on. :0+

Question: Often, I find myself writing and have trouble doing so. I leave out letters of words and my hand-writing looks like really bad chicken scratch. I don't feel like I'm trying to hurry, but wonder if it's because it's something I really don't want to be doing? Such as: I was copying recipes onto index cards. My handwriting was so bad I considered taking the whole pile of recipes I had torn from magazines and tossing them in the trash. Is it because I really didn't want to do it? Is it because I really didn't want to cook? :0)

Inklings said...

Hmmm...if I am the family member, I think you should e-mail me :0)
I actually mostly print these days, like in my journal.

blackwatertown said...

Hmm - so does it count as self obsession if I suddenly become obsessed with my handwriting?

Delirious said...

Ha ha, Blackwatertown, I think you have made a very good point! :D I, for one, have a hard enough time making it legible to worry about what it says about me. :)

Inklings, you and I both know that you are not self absorbed. But if you want to know who the family member is, I could tell you. ;)

Looney said...

If I only type, does that mean I don't have a personality?

I am not sure I can write at all now.

Max Coutinho said...

Hi D,

It is true: in Europe, it is usual to ask job applicants to write a small essay not only to analyse their handwriting, but also to analyse the thought process.

So, you have this ability, eh? You should use it professionally.

There is a lot of factors influencing human personality and I don't think that changing the handwriting would help in changing personality traits. Moreover, we do not know why people are the way they (only God knows) and the challenge is to respect and love people just the way they are (even though we may help them improve).

Excellent post!