I have a friend who is very well educated, and very intelligent, but who allows herself to fall apart during crisis. She becomes almost incapacitated when trouble strikes. I have been with her during these difficult times, and I have seen her make the choice to fall apart, instead of being strong. I know she can do better, and I don't think she is doing herself any favors by training her brain to react in this way. When speaking about certain types of potentially dangerous situations, some people say they could never deal with that situation. But I believe the human spirit is strong, and we can deal with anything if we just make the decision.
I remember once when this friend came out of her house crying, and announced to me and another friend that she had cut off her finger tip! We ran over to help her. She was clearly in a state of panic and couldn't even decide what she should do next. She allowed herself to lose control. We sat her down and I called the doctor. They asked me to describe her wound over the phone. What I found was that she had NOT cut off the tip of her finger, but had cut a very small portion of skin. She had hit a main blood vessel that wouldn't seem to stop bleeding, so ended up getting that cauterized, but by no means had she cut off her fingertip. I think I use humor to cope with difficult situations, and so I couldn't help laughing as I tried to describe the size of the cut off piece of skin to the nurse on the phone. I finally decided that the best description was that it was the size of a flattened grain of rice. lol I do think that my laughter helped my friend to calm down and be strong.
I fear that if my friend doesn't learn to find her inner strength, that she could lose some mental stability. To me, stable means being firm, and strong. She must find that in herself if she is going to deal with future, more serious traumas! She has been divorced, and her children are all grown. She can't lean on anyone else at home. She must find that support and strength within herself. I know she can do it if she just makes the decision to be strong!
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