Tuesday, June 29, 2010
If We Want Change, We Must Make Changes
This is a picture of one of my mission companions. She is my same age, 49, (well, I soon will be anyway) but has never been married. I think she is very pretty, but I don't know if she would be considered pretty by chinese standards. That might sound funny, but different cultures look at different traits for beauty. When we were missionaries, many people we met thought she was Japanese. But I do think she is pretty, and I think most men would find her attractive. But she has never even had a boyfriend.
She owns an English school in Taiwan, and has been successful for many years. But as she continues to age, she is concerned that she still isn't married. That is something she deeply wants in her life. I got an email from her today and she was questioning what she should do to make this happen. It's such a coincidence that I heard something today that really seemed to pertain to her situation. I was watching "America's Got Talent" while I was writing today, and one of the judges said this to one of the contestants who needed improvement. The judge said,
"If you always do what you have done, you will always get what you have gotten."
I told my friend that saying. I really believe that what she has been doing for 49 years isn't working for her. If what she wants is marriage, she is going to have to make a change. I feel very strongly about this because this is what I did to find my husband. I knew that keeping my life as it was, I would never be able to meet the right person for me. I came up with a plan for how I would increase my odds of meeting the right person, and I carried out each step. I really believe this principle applies to all areas of our life. Are you looking for a job? If you aren't finding one, then obviously what you have done isn't working. Are you in a bad relationship again? Then obviously you are doing things the same way to get the same result. If we want to truly change our lives, we have to make changes that will bring about the result we want. If we aren't having success, then our methods aren't the right ones.
I should add that I told my friend that I will pray for her, and I encouraged her to pray to know what changes she should make in her life. I think that if we pray for something specific like that,God will bless us with specific blessings. I do believe there is someone out there that would be the right husband for my friend. It is going to take God's help to find him. I have prayed to find items before, and God has shown me where to look. I believe God can show her where to find the right husband. And I believe God can help us make the changes in our lives that will put us in the right position to grow and to be able to receive the blessings He has in mind for us.