I was watching "Runaway Bride" the other day. It stars Julia Roberts and Richard Gere. I was thinking while I was watching it how Richard Gere is accepted for his gray hair, whereas I am often criticized! Is this a double standard? Do we only accept gray hair in men? Or is it just that we only accept handsome men with gray hair? ;)
When I was living in China, I was happy to see that our Branch President's wife was salt and pepper gray. I have never wanted to dye my hair. It just didn't feel like me, and I didn't want the expense and hassle. So when I saw this woman's hair, I felt empowered to keep my gray. Every week I would go to church and see her gray hair, and think to myself, "Yes! This is the way nature intended!" Not too many weeks later, I went to church one day and saw that she had dyed her hair! I was so let down! But I still didn't give in, and to this day I haven't. I still think that it's okay to be gray.
A few years ago I went to a meeting at church, and before it started I was talking with a woman, and told her why I don't dye my hair. She suddenly, adamantly said, "I don't do gray!" Oooookay. But then recently I started working with someone new at church who dyes her hair. After working with her for a short time, I suddenly noticed that she quit dying her hair. Now, her hair isn't anywhere near as gray as mine, but I wondered if I was a sort of "gray hair support group" for her. If I can help other people to feel comfortable with being natural, then that makes me happy. If Richard Gere can do it, why can't I? Besides, I've had color analysis done, and I can wear the color gray, and the color white. So I'm set for the rest of my life! :D