Saturday, March 27, 2010

You Should Know Better

Okay, I know I'm over weight. I know I gain weight mostly in my belly, and many people think I look pregnant. But here I am, 48 years old, and gray haired. You would think that at some point people would realize I'm getting older, and that I'm just fat. At what age do people stop asking?!

Yesterday my neighbor came over to visit. She sees me quite often, and has seen me fat. Although we dont' spend much time together, we have lived next to each other for about 13 years, so she knows me by now. She was sitting on my couch, and suddenly said, "Oh! Are you having a baby?!" I said, "Pfftt...no, I'm just fat!" Then I suddenly felt angry. I usually just feel embarassed, but this time I felt angry. I said, "I'm 48 years old!" She said, "It's been known to happen!" I sort of grabbed my fat stomach and said, "No, it's just fat." Then she grabbed her fat stomach and said, "Yea, I have the same." That made me even angrier! If she has a fat stomach, then why can't she understand that other people might? They say that anger comes from pride. But I felt more like my anger came from injustice. My stomach looks like hers, but I don't ask other people if they are pregnant! Even if someone is young, I wait until I'm SURE before asking. That might mean they are 8 months along, but I wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings by asking too soon. I just felt like this neighbor should know better. Women should know better. Men can get away with it because they don't really get all of those kind of social nuances. Sorry guys, but it's usually the case. lol But women go through this kind of thing, and they should know better. In my mind, there is no excuse. Rant over...

9 comments:

Looney said...

Just take Sally for a long walk in the hills!

Nene said...

I feel your pain - I've been asked that many times. But then, I'm your sister and we have the same genes. Don't you ever curse those genes? I do, many times. And I'm sorry, but whenever I've had a comment like that, I don't hold back. I make them understand that they have said something rude. I'm sorry, but my compassion runs out when people say something like that. You and I would NEVER, NEVER, NEVER ask someone your age or my age that question. In fact, I'd just never ask someone that question unless they actually said something to me to lead me to believe that they might be pregnant. I also know that a LOT of people think: Well, just lose weight - exercise, diet, quit pigging out! I have a very skinny best friend. When I was in the States, we went out to lunch at LEAST twice a week, if not more. She also taught Seminary with me, and we did breakfasts every single Friday. With that in mind, I'll just tell you that she ALWAYS out-ate me every time. Ok, my rant is now over. :0)

My word verification is "remarksk"
People need to be careful of their "remarksk"

Delirious said...

Looney, I take Sally for a 45-60 minute walk every morning. A woman I know told me that when women are my age, their body tends to want to store the fat to somehow aid in going through menopause. TMI? lol

Lindsay Logic said...

That is rude, I'm sorry!

Inklings said...

Take your neighbor for a long walk in the hills - and leave her there! :0)

Inklings said...

One more thing...:0)...when I was 49 I told my mother-in-law I had to have a hysterectomy. She began to cry and said, "Oh, you won't be having any more babies!" (My youngest was also ten years old.)

Dee Ice Hole said...

OK--Here are the three things you never ask a woman:
HOW OLD ARE YOU?
HOW MUCH DO YOU WEIGH?
and the new one
ARE YOU HAVING A BABY---OR WHEN ARE YOU DUE?

Amber said...

I'm sorry, I hate when people ask that, I agree that it should never be asked unless they say something to make you think they might be, and even then it's risky. One time when I was 20 or 21, and much much skinnier than I am now I was ordering a sandwich at Quizno's and the guy taking the order said, "and what will the baby had" I thought I'd just misheard him so didn't say anything and then he asked me when I was due, I was shocked because I didn't look pregnant at all - some people are just idiots ;>

Ramana Rajgopaul said...

Delirious, imagine ME being asked the same question at 67! Happens all the time!! All in fun of course.